This week a lot of things have happened for the L(esbian)G(ay)B(isexual)T(ransgendered)Q(ueer/Questioning) community, both here in Burlington, VT and elsewhere in the country. This blog post is dedicated to the 7 recent suicides committed by youth around the country due to bullying, harassment, and general nonacceptance by those around them. One story in particular stands out-the story of Tyler Clementi. To see the article I'm taking my info from, click
here.
Tyler Clementi was an accomplished musician already at age 18. He was quiet, kept to himself, and was gay. His roommate covertly streamed him via webcam one night having sexual relations with a male partner, and then put it online for others to see. Three days later, Tyler jumped off the George Washington Bridge into the Hudson River-to his death.
The fact that LGBTQ youth are being harassed and abused to the point of wanting to end their lives entirely is very sad. I mean, what does this say about our society? Those in the LGBTQ community have worked so hard for so long-and right now it only seems to be getting worse. The places where LGBTQ individuals are accepted and welcomed with open arms I feel are too few and far in between. People in American society need to grow up and stop discriminating against others because they aren't just like you. Has nobody seen
Pocahontas?
"John Smith: We've improved the lives of savages all over the world.
Pocahontas: *Savages*?
John Smith: Uh, not that *you're* a savage.
Pocahontas: Just my people!
John Smith: No. Listen. That's not what I meant. Let me explain, uh...
Pocahontas: Let go!
John Smith: No, I'm not letting you leave.
Pocahontas: [jumps up into a tree]
John Smith: Look, don't do this. Savage is just a word, uh, you know. A term for people who are uncivilized.
Pocahontas: Like me.
John Smith: Well, when I say uncivilized, what I mean is, is...
Pocahontas: What you mean is, "not like you." " (
IMDB)
The first time I read about Tyler Clementi's story in the
New York Times, I very nearly cried. My heart feels so much pain for stories such as this-which is probably why I'm going into the career I've chosen for myself.
Fortunately, there are some conversations going on around the country helping to educate people about what it means to be an LGBT or Q person. Today, I attended a 9 hour
Translating Identity Conference (lovingly called TIC [pronounced "tick"],) at UVM. There were different workshops run during each of the hour long time slots that you could choose to attend. (I was there for a class requirement, but also to help increase my own area of knowledge as well.) If more conversations like this one were opened up more often and in many more different locations, I really believe that many would stop being so hateful towards those who don't fit or conform to societal norms. Small steps are a good place to start, but
much more needs to be done to prevent LGBTQ youth suicide. These are just kids-regardless of how they decide to present, or whom they find themselves in love with.
Please, please, if you or someone you know is considering suicide because the bullying pressure has become too much, check out the TrevorProject, or some other LGBTQ youth suicide prevention hotline service.
For the rest of you who are wondering what you as an everyday kind of person can do to help out-please just be aware of what you say and what you do and how it can affect others around you. Be aware of your own judgements of others and what your preconceived notions of gender and sexual preference are. Know that both have a wide spectrum and array of situations. There are many biological men and women (also known as bio-men or bio-women,) who may think of themselves as the opposite gender, but may chose to present themselves as their assigned gender (AKA-what gender they were born with and "assigned" at birth.) Be aware of what pronouns individuals chose to use regarding themselves, and how they identify. It is always better to ask if you aren't sure than to assume and offend.
Also-if you know of any LGBTQ conversations happening in your area-please attend! Most welcome people from all stages of understanding. If you don't know much about the LGBTQ community and you're scared to go-please, don't be. Jump in and learn! The more you know about the issues at hand, the better able you are to help find solutions. <3
This post is deep-and I promise I'll post something light and fluffy soon. But in the meantime, please take a moment of silence and light a candle for those who couldn't take any more of the abuse and harassment. Please keep them in your thoughts, and please find out what you can do in your community to help make a difference. You could save lives.
<3 Megan <3
